Sunday, September 11, 2011

How romance novels ruined my view of relationships





All girls dream of their knight in shinning armor. For that gorgeous guy to show up on his white steed and sweep us off our feet and take us away to his castle in this hills where we will live happily ever after. Well, that doesn't happen every day, wait...it doesn't happen ever! But we still wait and hope for that to happen; and reading romance novels and watching romantic comedy movies don't help the situation. I am sure I am not the only woman in the world that has cried at the end of a book/movie and felt a bit of self loathing over the fact that we aren't that lucky. We don't have the long flowing hair that is always perfect or the figures that make men want to haul us into their arms and keep us there for always. And let's face it, who doesn't want that to happen? 

I have been single for so long now, I have honestly come to rely on the men in my books and movies. They are always there for me, always happy to take me into their world and for a moment, I am one of those tragically beautiful girls that the most gorgeous men in the world fall for. One good thing is at least the woman in those books and movies are strong and independent. But like me, they safe guard their hearts and keep part of themselves back, so people won't know how completely vulnerable they are. To portray yourself as a completely whole person, void of any flaws, is, in itself a flaw. But as the story progresses, we learn that those women overcome those flaws and realize it's okay to wear your heart on your sleeve - and show that to the gorgeous man she's has fallen in love with in, say, 2 days, is a whole person. 



And me, I wish for the kiss that always happens at some point in the story. The kind of kiss that takes not only your breath away, but makes your soul leave your body for a moment and merge with the one you are attached to. And I have never experienced that kind of soul robbing kiss. 

So here's my question to those reading - especially the girls - am I alone in feeling like this? Or am I crazy for wanting this kind of mind blowing romance? I think every girl deserves this kind of love...even if it is a fleeting affair that turns your world upside down. So here's my advice to any girl out there looking and hoping for romance - don't give up and don't stop looking for it, thinking that you aren't worth the love that everyone else has. And maybe someday, the knight in shinning armor that we have dreamed of since we were little, will ride up and sweep us off our feet.

Happy reading!
~Anastasia